There is nothing wrong with you.

Book Description
This book reveals the origin of self-hate, how self-hate works, how to identify it, and how to go beyond it. It provides examples of some of the forms self-hate takes, including taking blame but not credit, holding grudges, and trying to be perfect, and explores the many facets of self-hate, including its role in addiction, the battering cycle, and the illusion of control. After addressing these factors, it illustrates how a meditation practice can be developed and practiced in efforts to free oneself from self-hating beliefs.

About the Author
Cheri Huber is the author of 19 books, including When You're Falling, Dive and Time-Out for Parents. She founded the Mountain View Zen Center in Mountain View, California, and the Zen Monastery Practice Center in Murphys, California, and teaches in both communities. She travels widely and often, leading workshops and retreats around the United States and abroad, most recently in Costa Rica and Italy. She founded Living Compassion in 2003, a nonprofit group comprised of There Is Nothing Wrong with You Retreats (based on the book); Global Community for Peace: The Assisi Peace Project; The Africa Vulnerable Children Project; and Open Air Talk Radio, her weekly call-in radio show originating from Stanford University. She lives in Murphys, California.

above descriptions obtained from amazon.com

Personally I think the book was written for teenagers who has the common notion that the world, their parents and life is against them.
For the rest of the population the text quoted below would be enough to read. Even though the book can be rewritten successfully into 5 pages these 5 pages say allot and that is why I quoted most of it below;
-harl.

Extracts from the book:

Beginning to wake up
Beginning not to take it personally.
Beginning to see that life isn’t someone’s “fault”

It just is
And you just are
And it’s all just fine.

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In the present
We can embrace the past
And free the future

If the future is not freed
To be the present it is,
our present will always
be lived in the past.
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All of life’s conflicts are between
Letting go
Or
Holding on

Opening into the present
Or
Clinging to the past

Expansion
Or
contraction

Acceptance
Is not only the path to creativity,
It is creativity

Until you accept
Nothing new can be,
You will only have the past.

If you want a new world,
accept the as it is.

If you want a wholly new world,
Accept it wholly.

When the Buddha wanted to find out how suffering happened and how to end it, and discovered that no one could tell him,
His response was to find out for himself.
It is possible for each of us to do this, although almost none of us wants to.

We look for things that were done to us because that makes us the victim.
Then things are not our fault; we don’t have to take responsibility.

We can point to all these Reasons that we are how we are.

We can also say,

Yes, this did happen to me, and my parents did it to me because their parents did it to them and so on down the line.

And if I can’t stop doing it to myself, how can I expect them to have stopped doing it?

They weren't’t aware any of this existed. They were just being good parents in the same way they are parenting.

Taking responsibility is not taking blame.
It’s not your fault.
It’s not someone else’s fault.
It’s not anyone’s fault

“fault” misses the point

This is how it is

This is you best opportunity to turn it around.

There will always be future opportunities, but why not use this one?

The only difference between the life you are living and the life you want to live is the feeling of being appreciated, loved and accepted. Unconditionally.

So………………………

Give it to yourself
Right now!
This minute!
Don’t wait!

Not when you have changed
Not when you are in a better mood
Not when you have earned it.
Right now!

You could start appreciating yourself for reading this book
For caring
For being willing
For opening up your heart

There is nothing in life that could happen to you that is worse than living in fear and self-hate.

And the great sadness is that living in fear and self-hate won’t keep you fear and hate from happening to you.

We cling to our belief that there is something wrong because that’s how we maintain our position at the center of the universe.

Suffering provides our identity
Identity is maintained in struggle, in dissatisfaction, in trying to fix what’s wrong.

Suffering, egocentricity, fear, self-hate, illusion of separateness = all the same thing

So we are constantly looking for what is a wrong, constantly creating new crisis so we can rise to the occasion

The ego’ that’s survival.

It is very important that something be wrong so we can continue to survive it.

I suspect we focus on “learning from our mistakes” (beating ourselves up over them), because that keeps us from paying attention to what we are doing now.

Remember, as long as you are out of the moment, egocentricity is in control.
When you are in the present moment, there are no you that are separate and alone4, no identification with egocentricity.

Self-hate is designed is designed to make sure that doesn't happen.

Self-hate will pull you out of the experience of the present moment in order to get you to focus on “What’s wrong? What did I do?”

It’s that self-conscious questioning and analysis that brings you out of the present moment either into the past.

“How should I have been instead of how I was?”

Or into the future, “What should I do about it?”

It doesn’t matter what did or did not happen then.

It only matters what happens NOW.

We have a choice.
We can live our lives trying to conform to some nebulous standard or we can live our lives seeing how everything works.

When we step back and look at it that was, it is obvious that the attitude of fascination is the only intelligent one to bring to anything.