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FOOD FOR THOUGHT
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LOOKING AT YOURSELFbefore you go a step further, take a good long look at
your desires, motivation and skills. What role do y ou see yourself playing
in this new group? "Ordinary" member? Democratic facilitator? High Priestess?
And if the last -- why do you want the job?The title of High Priestess and
Priestess are seductive, conjuring up exotic images of yourself in embroid
ered robes, a silver crescent (or horned helm) on your brow, adoring
celebrants hanging on every word which drops from your lips...Reality check.
The robes will be stained with wine and candle wax soon enough, and not every
word you speak is worth re membering. A coven leader's job is mostly hard
work between rituals and behind the scene. It is not always a good place to
act out your fantasies, because the lives and well-being of others are
involved, and what is flattering or enjoyable to you man not be in their best
interest. So consider carefully.If your prime motive is establishing a coven
is to gain status and ego gratification, other people will quickly sense
that. If they are intelligent, independent individuals, they will refuse to
pl ay Adoring Disciple to your Witch Queen impressions. They will disappear,
and that vanishing act will be the last magickthey do with you.And if you do
attract a group ready to be subservient Spear Carriers in your fantasy drama
-- well, do you really want to associate with that kind of personality? What
are you going to do when you want someone strong around to help you or teach
you, and next New Moon you look out upon a handful of HenryMilquetoasts and
Frieda Handmaidens? If a person is willing to serve you, the they will also
become dependent on you, drain your energy, and become disillusioned if you
ever let down the Infallible Witch Queen mask for even a moment.Some other
not-so-great reasons for starting a coven:
a) because it seems glamorous, exotic, and a little wicked;
b) because it will shock your mother, or
c) because you can endure your boring, flunkie job more easily if you get to
go home and play Witch at night.Some better reasons for setting up a
coven, and even nomination yourself as High Priest/ess, include:
a) you feel that you will be performing a useful job for yourself and others;
b) you have enjoyed leadership roles in the past, and proven yourself
capable; or c) you look forward to learning and growing in the
role.Even with the best motives in the world, you will still need to have --
or quickly develop -- a who le range of skills in order to handle a
leadership role. If you are to be a facilitator of a study group, group
process insights and skills are important.These include: 1) Gatekeeping, or
guiding discussion in such a way that everyone has an opportu nity to express
ideas and opinions; 2) Summarising and clarifying; 3) Conflict resolution,
or helping participants understand points of disagreement and find potential
solutions which respect everyone's interests; 4) Moving the discussion
toward c onsensus, or at any rate decision, by identifying diversions and
refocussing attention on goals and priorities; and 5) Achieving closure
smoothly when the essential work is completed, or an appropriate stopping
place is reached.In addition to group process skills, four other competencies
necessary to the functioning of a coven are: ritual leadership,
administration, teaching, and counselling. In a study group the last one may
not be considered a necessary function, and the other three may be sh ared
among all participants. But in a coventhe leaders are expected to be fairly
capable in all these areas, even if responsibilities are frequently shared or
delegated. Let us look briefly at each.Ritual leadership involves much more
that reading in vocations by candlelight. Leaders must understand the powers
they intend to manipulate: how they are raised, channelled and grounded. They
must be adept at designing rituals which involve all the sensory modes. They
should have a repertoire of songs and chants, dances and gestures or mudras,
incense and oils, invocations and spells, visual effects and symbols,
meditations and postures; and the skill to combine these in a powerful,
focused pattern. They must have clarity of purpose and firm ethic s. And they
must understand timing: both where a given ritual fits in the cyclesof the
Moon, the Wheel of the Year, and the dance of the spheres, and how to pace
the ritual once started, so that energy peaks and is channelled at the
perfect moment. A nd they must understand the Laws of Magick, and the
correspondences, and when ritual is appropriate and when it is not.By
administration, we refer to basic management practices necessary to any
organization. These include apportioning work fairly, an d following up on
its progress; locating resources and obtaining them (information, money,
supplies); fostering communications (by telephone, printed schedules,
newslettersetc.); and keeping records (minutes, accounts, Witch Book entries,
or ritual l ogbook). Someone or several someone's has to collect the dues if
any, buy the candles, chill the wine, and so forth.Teaching is crucial to
both covens and study groups. If only one person has any formal training or
experience in magick, s/he should t ransmit that knowledge in a way which
respects the intuitions, re-emerging past life skills, and creativity of the
others. If several participants have some knowledge in differing areas, they
can all share the teaching role. If no one in the group ha s training and you
are uncertain where to begin, they you may need to call on outside resources:
informed and ethical priest/esses who can act as visiting faculty, or who
arewilling to offer guidance by telephone or correspondence. Much can be
gleane d from books, or course -- assuming you know which books are
trustworthy and at the appropriate level -- but there is no substitute for
personal instruction for some things. Magick can be harmful if misused, and
an experienced practitionercan help yo u avoid pitfalls as well as offering
hints and techniques not found in the literature.Counselling is a special
role of the High Priest/ess. It is assumed that all members of a coven share
concern for each other's physical, mental, emotional and spiri tual welfare,
and are willing to help each other out in practical ways. However,coven
leaders are expected to have a special ability to help coverners explore the
roots of their personal problems and choose strategies and tactics to
overcome them. Th is is not to suggest that one must be a trained
psychoanalyst; but at the least, good listening skills, clear thinking and
some insight into humannature are helpful. Often, magickal skills such as
guided visualization, Tarot counselling and radiesthe sia (pendulum work) are
valuable tools as well.Think carefully about your skills in these areas, as
you have demonstrated them in other organizations. Ask acquaintances or co-
workers, who can be trusted to give you a candid opinion, how they see you in
some of these roles. Meditate, and decide what you really want for yourself
in organizing the new group. Willyou be content with being a catalyst and
contact person -- simply bringing people with a common interest together,
then letting the group guide its destiny from that point on? Would you rather
be a facilitator, either for the first months orpermanently: a low-key
discussion leader who enables the group to move forward with a minimum of
misunderstanding and wasted energy? Or do you real ly want to be High
Priestess -- whatever that means to you -- and serve as the guiding spirit
and acknowledged leader of a coven? And if you do want that job,exactly how
much authority and work do you envision as part of it? Some coven leaders
want a great deal of power and control; others simply take an extra share of
responsibility for setting up the rituals (whether or not they actually
conduct the rites), and act as "magickal advisor" to less experienced
members. Thusthe High Priest/ess can be the centre around which the life of
the coven revolves, or primarily an honorary title, or anything in
between.That is one area which you will need to have crystal-clear in your
own mind before the first meeting (of if you are flexible, at least b e very
clear that you are). You must also be clear as to your personal needs on
other points: program emphasis, size, meeting schedule, finances, degree of
secrecy, and affiliationwith a tradition or network. You owe it to
prospective members and to yourself to make your minimum requirements known
from the outset: it can be disastrous to a group to discover that members
have major disagreements on these points after you have been meeting for six
months.BLESSED BE